& Here comes the Women's day!

It’s 8th march,an International Women’s Day! And see everyone is celebrating as they enjoyed Holi few days ago. This time I am not interested at all. In the morning I am opening my Facebook application and getting news. I think it was a post from Indiatimes.

“300 rapes & 500 molestations cases registered in Delhi in last two months.”

Delhi has certainly become the rape capital of India. Again and again I am asking whether we should really celebrate this day. And even if we celebrate, what about those who have suffered from a brutality from rape or gang rape? Forget Nirbhaya and her recent controversy over her documentary being showed by BBC, we just want her soul to rest in peace. I am sure wherever she is; she is living a happy life instead of living between cruel & ‘lust’ hungry animals’ society. Here we are talking about women’s day. For men like us, what we‘d to do and what we should not? For many days I am seeing viral videos & comments by women how they are feeling uncomfortable around while roaming outside. I have pointed out some solutions here. Duties of men do not end with the time when they leave the office; protecting women must be a prior duty in men’s life. But he must take care of several things.

·         There is strict law for stalking a woman. I have found many men (from younger to older) kept staring woman from local or metro. While I was in Delhi, I also read somewhere on Facebook or Twitter, “If you want to experience heaven in Delhi, board the last car of Delhi Metro”. Obviously when you will board in the last car, the first car of the metro running on an opposite side will have a ladies car. So one side men think they protect women but by stalking they are doing nothing but committing crime.  

·         In last year, couple of incidents took place on Link Road, Mumbai where two women were harassed. Both women belonged to film industry. In one incident, an actress went for shopping in an auto and a thief tried to steal her purse. She chased him and caught him alone but that guy slapped her while protesting. He tried to run away but that woman didn’t make him escape. Crowd watched this incident like spectators watching a cricket match. While in other incident, another actress was driving a car on Link Road, somehow her car brushed a businessman’s car. He came out and started slapping the actress. Again the crowd became spectators….. Matter ended up in a police station.  This doesn’t make us men.

·         By lighting up candles and protesting by a march, none can make the difference. Remember 16^th December incident, even more people gathered near India Gate than the people gathered on a day of Independence. I remember one of my Twitter followers Neha who was protesting over there, she said that many girls didn’t even move for last four days. They have not gone home. They have not even properly eaten. But what happened later? As I am writing this blog, I am getting news from Indiatimes that Nirbhaya incident has been repeated in Ahmadabad. A six year old girl has been molested (with an iron rod). Remember, today is a women’s day… Nothing happens with candles & marches.

·         With this incident came in light today, I have been finding how little girls are being victimized. Since 2009 when I was living in Surat, several cases came in light about little girls how they were molested and in many cases; they were raped and killed in an isolated places. If you are seeing a little girl and you are growing any kind of intention inside yourself, then you’re a worse animal on this universe. You don’t deserve to live here.

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Just remember that we are here today because of a woman. ‘She’ has brought us here and we must thank them to let us allow seeing this beautiful world. But what do men see today? Beautiful women instead of beautiful world. There are few women I have been following for last couple of years. I put my mother aside here (because I am nothing without her), I met Mrs Muskaan (Vartik Sapra) is truly my biggest inspiration. Then I knew Demi Lovato & her life. I ordered her book straight from New York which changed my life (My next blog will be about her) & third one is Katy Perry. She taught me “अनुगच्छतु प्रवाह”, that means, flow with the time. Yes flow with the time! The best message I ever got. Women are free to do anything. And that is why we celebrate an “Independence Day”. If we are restricting their lives, we should stay away from independence. We have no right to celebrate it. So flow with times. The more you’ll think, the more you’ll find yourself under anxiety.

So then you’ll be free to celebrate a Women’s day. To respect a woman, first you have to remove these toxics from yourself. You have to be free first to give women their freedom. Or in future, there will be uncountable “Nirbhayas”.